Flying Solo

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Fifth grade was a pretty crazy year in the love department for me. I had a "boyfriend". We shared beef jerky at snack time, avoided speaking to each other as much as possible, and I even sacrificed getting my family Christmas presents that year just so I could buy him some super sweet finger skateboards. We lasted a few good months until he decided my best friend suited him better. I was a wreck for about an hour until I got over it and was ready for the next boy in line to woo me....anytime he wanted to show up....
I have decided this boy must have gotten lost somewhere along the way because eight years later I'm still hanging out waiting for him.

I know many girls who pretend to be absolutely fine as a single person, but actually flip out on the inside waiting and wondering where Prince Charming is... and to be honest, I used to be that girl. As of now, I have realized that being single, while hard, is a divine opportunity.

When I left for college, my mom and countless other women told me to watch out because boys would be pursuing me like crazy. So I went to college expecting just that... and guess what the reality has been?

Warning to mothers and members of the female gender. DO NOT tell your daughter that boys will be lined up to date her when she gets to a certain age, it is a flat out lie. Girls already feel pressure to be in a relationship and find Mr. Right, we do not need you telling us that men will be flocking towards us when they may not be.

I am so thankful that I have grown up and matured. I have begun to figure things out for myself and begun to create my own ideas about relationships and life. I am not bitter towards my mom for telling me boys will be lined up waiting for me, but with girls being as insecure as they are, think about the repercussions of those statements if they turn out to be untrue!

Anyway, I gave up looking for boys. That sounds so ridiculous to say, but I think so many girls buy into the potential lie that if you are good enough and love Jesus enough, the man will come early in life and swoop you away to a life of love and bliss.

Do you want your future daughters to be searching for a husband their whole lives?
Do you want your 3 year-old daughter bawling her eyes out because she is in love with Justin Bieber? (haven't seen this yet? check it out on youtube)
I want my kids to be chasing after Christ more than girls these days chase after boys. Placing an emphasis on finding worth in the male gender will only lead to disaster. If you start out by placing an emphasis on finding worth in Christ and truly live your life that way, your kids will see your life and follow in your footsteps.
For awhile I prayed some pretty lame-o prayers about Mr. Right, but I finally discovered that those prayers are selfish. I found that I was demanding things from God but not living my life in total surrender to Him.
My sister dropped this line which is totally better than anything I could have made up:
"God is not done with my singleness yet."

Instead of running away from being single, see it as an opportunity to find out who God made you to be and what passions your heart yearns for. Think of how much God can use you while you are single....IF you are willing.

I get infuriated when girls in their 20s flip out because they are not married yet. Why the heck is there so much pressure to get married so young? For some people 20 is the time to tie the knot, but for others, marriage will happen later.

And ladies, lets be real, 30 is NOT old.

**At the rate we're going, this girl will be considered a spinster in no time**